Questions to Replace "How Was School Today?"

Asking your child "How was school today?" often leads to the same uninspired responses: "Fine," "Good," or perhaps just a shrug. As parents, we long to connect with our children and understand their day, but this question often fails to draw out meaningful conversation.

So how can we do better?

The Bible reminds us of the importance of conversation and connection. Proverbs 18:15 tells us, "The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out." By asking thoughtful questions, we can open up avenues for our children to share their experiences, emotions, and insights with us.

Below are some alternatives to the usual "How was school today?"—questions designed to help you dive deeper into your child's day.

Questions to Ask other than "How Was School Today?"

1. "What made you smile today?"

   • This question helps your child reflect on the joys of their day, fostering a spirit of gratitude (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

2. "Did you learn something new today that surprised you?"

   • Encourage curiosity and the pursuit of knowledge, echoing the wisdom of Proverbs 4:7: "The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding."

3. "Was there a time today when you felt God's presence?"

   • This question invites your child to think about how faith intersects with their daily life, helping them to recognize God's hand in everything they do (Psalm 139:7-10).

4. "Did anyone need your help today? How did you respond?"

   • This question encourages empathy and kindness, reflecting Jesus' command to "love your neighbor as yourself" (Mark 12:31).

5. "What was the hardest part of your day?"

   • Give your child the space to share struggles and challenges, and remind them that they can "cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7).

6. "Did anything make you feel proud today?"

   • Celebrate their achievements, big or small, and remind them that "whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord" (Colossians 3:23).

7. "Was there a moment when you felt confused?"

   • Help them navigate their confusion by discussing it together, trusting in the promise that "the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding" (Proverbs 2:6).

8. "What are you looking forward to tomorrow?"

   • Encourage your child to think about the future with hope, as "faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see" (Hebrews 11:1).

9. "Did you see anyone being kind or unkind today?"

   • Teach them to discern right from wrong, reflecting on Jesus' teaching: "In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you" (Matthew 7:12).

10. "What was the most interesting thing you learned today?"

    • Show that learning is valuable, aligning with Proverbs 1:5: "Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance."

Tips for Meaningful Conversations

• When asking these questions, timing and setting matter: Choose moments when you both can focus—like during dinner or a car ride.

• Remember, you don't need to ask all these questions every day; choose one or two that feel right for the moment.

• Listening is just as important as asking. Be patient, don’t interrupt, and show genuine interest in what your child has to say.

• When they share, affirm their feelings and experiences, reminding them that their thoughts and emotions are valid.

By replacing "How was school today?" with more meaningful questions, we can deepen our connection with our children and nurture their spiritual and emotional growth. These conversations are not just about understanding their day but about guiding them in their journey with Christ.

A Closing Prayer

Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of our children and the opportunity to be part of their daily lives. Help us to ask the right questions and to listen with open hearts. May our conversations bring us closer to each other and to You. Guide our children as they learn and grow, and help them to see Your presence in every moment. In Jesus' name, Amen.